LOVE is – “Recognizing what a song can do to me… and more”

How do you express the inexpressible?

Have you ever felt something in your heart which only could be expressed by silence?

And sometimes not even by silence…?

Not by silence, not by eloquence.

Not with a smile, hug, endearment.

Some things in life can be expressed only by music, a good song which has the capacity to make the soul break out in a rapturous dance. That dance of the soul – not of the gyrating body or the beautiful movements of the limbs and  expression of the eyes – but that dance which entraps you in a mysterious land filled with beauty and poise. Continue reading


Rule # 10 of Love – Suffering Elevates Consciousness

Shams in his Rule # 10 of Love said, “The midwife knows that when there is no pain, the way for the baby cannot be opened and the mother cannot give birth. Likewise, for a new self to be born, hardship is necessary. Just as clay needs to go through intense heat to become strong, Love can only be perfected in pain.”


Well, these days it is slightly extreme to say that when in pain, you can see the light. Or rather, in pain, you realize God – that is sheer sadism!

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Rule # 9 of Love – Love is a Journey ‘Within’

From the world of everything, to the world of nothingness, is the journey of spirituality.

– Parthasarathi Rajagopalachari

Shams Tabrizi in his Rule # 9 of Love said almost the same thing.

“East, west, south, or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll travel the whole wide world and beyond.”

These spiritual giants speak in such riddles, don’t they?! Where is this internal journey? Journey towards nothingness? Journey within?

Well, let us talk about physical journeys. I have traveled to a few places with company and without.

Travel pics, from a couple of years ago …

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Rule # 8 of Love -Love Means To Be Patient… Infinitely

Shams Tabrizi in his Rule # 8 of Love said, “Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to look at the end of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.

Patience, I feel can begin with an expression of tolerance. To tolerate something with respect to time and the duration of time, and continue exponentially, infinitely.

Parthasarathi Rajagopalachari in the book, “My Master” (also available as a free ebook here) said, “Tolerance can give us that quantum of time which will permit us to probe below the surface and see the underlying truth.”

See what underlying truth? The need to be patient, the need to be tolerant. There is a great need, latent in humanity to be patient and understanding with the circumstance one is thrown in, with oneself, and others. And we require time for that patience to sink in, within our system to be expressed. Patience need to be cultivated, initially, and requires time – which tolerance can give.

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Rule # 7 of Love -Love Means To Be Happy Under All Circumstances

Necessities of life should be meager. “Plain living and high thinking” is an English proverb. Detachment in attachment is really needed. The happiest man is he who is happy under all circumstances.

– Ram Chandra of Shahjahanpur

I asked my toddler niece one day, what makes you happy. She stuck up her fingers and said, I like chocolates, ice-cream, blue colored nail polish, blue frock, pink hair clips, my dragon toys, … and eventually lost count of all of it in her fingers, and went into her own musings.


So, while my niece muses, I would like to take you to Austria where Dame Julie Andrews sings of a few of her favorite things in the movie, “Sound of Music.” Remember the below song? So lovely, huh?! Continue reading

Rule # 6 of Love –Love The Guide, In Whom You See Yourself

Certain friendships are meant to last beyond eternity.

How can I write a eulogy for someone who is always with me? He is no more in his physical form, no more in his physical entity since about an year. But like he said recently, his spirit, his essence lives on with us.

He was the perfect householder, an excellent executive at work, the chosen disciple to his spiritual guide, and a friend and guide to all of us.

He was the perfect spiritual friend to many – quoting him – “I would like to tell you that in the Sufi tradition only the Spiritual Master is known as the ‘Friend’. This follows the ancient Indian tradition that a real friend is one who will give his life for you.”


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Rule # 5 of Love – Silence is the Language of God

Shri Kamlesh D. Patel said, “You have centered yourself towards your heart. You are more perceptive, as you are trying to understand things with your heart. When you look at things, your attention is in the heart; your eyes are there. You are always trying to weigh things with your heart; you are not analyzing from the mind. Your inner radar opens up. And this habit has to be cultivated. If you want to become sharply discriminative, then this is a must.”

Today, I am going to take you all through an exercise, an exercise of silence, if you may call it. But before that, I want to listen to this song.

Ronan Keating has the most amazing voice, when he sings, “You say it best, when you say nothing at all.” Does he mean, saying nothing, speaking nothing, makes lovers come together – metaphorically? Does he say, “The heart speaks to the heart in the most intimate way, in silence?”

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